When weight plummets from “clean” eating and exercise, the physique transforms and muscles unveil as fat disappears. A svelte, sculpted, and strong body arises to the surface, welcoming “sexy” back to the forefront. With increased strength, emotional well-being, and confidence, the contours ache for a caress while libido peeks from within and touch becomes undeniable. Surfacing desire and seduction of the mind and body leaps amorously into action, to fulfill a need and craving for a climax of primal performance. As “sexy” flips a switch to the “on” position and burning desire stirs, needing to be ignited, we transform to aroused days when physical and emotional connection are in high demand. When “Sexy” returns, the libido shines, sustained by “comfort in one’s skin” and emotional balance parading the physique for attention, satisfaction, and exhilaration.

Sexual relations have an aptitude to flow continuously. Yet when inner and outer confidence deteriorates energy diminishes, sexual priority plummets, and libidos lie dormant. Sexual desire retracts, deteriorates, and disappears from distractions as child-rearing, work-related priorities, and/or hormonal imbalances. Weight loss, an energy surplus, and confidence, via “clean” food, weight loss, and strength training, libidos and sex return. As offspring grow, transformation to a healthy body, attention reverts to one’s partner, priorities deepen with increased desire, and sexual rumblings resume. With a shift of precedence, sexual gratification has a thirst for satisfaction.

Hardwired for connection, humans need physical stimulation. “To touch can be to give life,” Michelangelo said. The science of touch acknowledges the basic need to connect physically. Physical starvation deprives life’s deepest comforts, needs, and joys. Touch is the primary expression of compassion. Studies show physical human communication as a foundation for bonding, and as signals of safety and trust. Warm touch calms cardiovascular stress, activates the compassion response through the body’s vagus nerve, while simple touch produces oxytocin, “the love hormone.” Research shows that touch establishes clear communication between the genders about love, gratitude, and compassion, where facial and verbal communications were unable.¹ Since we often live in a documented touch-deprived society, reacquainting physically fosters greater well-being.

Reducing excess weight that reshapes the body, increases self-confidence, and restores libido, the return of sex supplies a bonus to healthy results. Exposure to this outcome relies upon firsthand experience. With added touch, life’s innate joy enhances. Dormant nurturing and physical needs replenish, restore, and recycle as health transforms externally via priorities changing and internally as the body readies itself for greater pleasure. An improved life needs enriching benefits that replenish the soul physically, mentally, and spiritually. Robust, sexual relations are but one upgrade for a well lived existence. When libido is back, sex returns, and all hands are on deck.

¹Keltner, Dasher. September 29, 2010. Hands on Research: The Science of Touch. The Greater Good Science Center at the University of California, Berkeley